When Someone You Love Has Cancer

When you hear the words from someone you know and love, “I have cancer,” there’s no script for how to respond. Some people freeze in shock; others cry, fumble over their words, or say something awkward (we’ve all been there). Then there are those who quietly pull away, unsure how to show up. All these reactions share a common thread of helplessness—because really, what do you say or do in that moment?

Here’s the truth: there’s no perfect reaction, and that’s okay. What matters most is that you show up. A hug, a message, or simply sitting in quiet solidarity can mean the world. And if you want to do more—channeling that helplessness into action—let me introduce you to the Badass Battle Crew.

Merch with a Mission

The Badass Battle Crew started with my family and friends rallying around me, but it quickly grew into something much bigger. Every shirt, hat, or hoodie isn’t just merch—it’s a message: “I see you, I’m with you, and together we’re stronger than cancer.” The funds raised go directly to the American Cancer Society, supporting research for triple-negative breast cancer and paving the way for better cancer treatments and brighter outcomes.

This journey isn’t something anyone should face alone. The overwhelming support from loved ones and even complete strangers inspired me to create a way for others to join the fight meaningfully. And none of this would’ve been possible without the incredible team behind the Crew.

💖 Want to show your support? Visit the Badass Battle Crew Online Store and grab some battle gear.

Meet the Heartbeat Behind the Battle Crew

The Badass Battle Crew isn’t just me—it’s the powerhouse of people who made it happen. A couple of friends turned a chemo infusion into a brainstorming session, sparking this blog and community. My husband ensures I share the grit that defines the fight (embracing my inner Brene Brown when I resist vulnerability). My cousin Braeden brought our logo to life with his incredible designs. And my kids and parents? They’re the backbone—running the swag shop and wearing their shirts like armor (seriously, wash them once in a while!).

To everyone already rocking their shirts and sharing their support: thank you. You’re showing me and my family—and the world—the power of community. Every shirt worn, every post shared, and every bit of support has been a lifeline.

Badass Lois Family

Why ‘Badass’ Is More Than Just a Word

“Badass” isn’t just about toughness for our family—it’s our unique signature vibe. What began as a fun acronym from mine and Andy’s initials has evolved into a powerful identity. It’s the heartbeat that keeps us united, navigating life’s challenges with resilience, laughter, and the occasional family eye-roll. As the Badass Battle Crew, we’re fighting breast cancer with all the strength and spirit that defines us. We’re counting on your support to join something bigger—embrace your badass side and stand against cancer.

Stay in the Breast Cancer Fight

When I was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer, I knew it would be a battle. What I didn’t expect was how powerful it would feel to rally the people I love around me and turn something so difficult into something meaningful. This crew isn’t just fighting for me—it’s fighting for every woman facing a breast cancer diagnosis.

Triple-negative breast cancer accounts for 10-15% of breast cancer diagnoses, but its aggressive nature and limited treatment options make it a unique challenge. Research is our best hope for changing that story. Every breakthrough in research brings hope—for new treatments, better survival rates, and brighter futures for women like me.

Be a Badass

Want to join the fight? Grab some badass battle gear (available until November 25), proudly wear your support, and follow and tag @BadassBattleCrew on Instagram. Together, we’re not just a community—we’re a movement making a difference.

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